September 10 is World Suicide Prevention Day—a reminder that many people carry heavy emotional struggles we don’t always see.
While I don’t provide crisis support in my practice, I often work with clients who feel weighed down by anxiety and stress. For many, hopelessness can creep in quietly.
When someone shares that they’re feeling hopeless, it can feel overwhelming to know how to respond. We may worry about saying the wrong thing or unintentionally making things worse. But offering compassion and presence—even in simple ways—can make a difference.
Why It Feels So Hard to Respond
When someone opens up about feeling hopeless, you might notice:
• Anxiety about “saying the wrong thing”
• The urge to jump in with advice
• Discomfort around difficult emotions
• Fear of making the situation worse
These reactions are normal. But with a few simple shifts, you can respond in ways that feel compassionate and supportive—without needing to “fix” the situation.
What to Say
Even small words of validation and care can go a long way. Here are a few supportive responses:
• “I’m really glad you told me.” → Acknowledges their courage in opening up.
• “That sounds really painful.” → Shows you’re listening and taking their feelings seriously.
• “I care about you and I’m here with you.” → Reassures them that they’re not alone.
• “Would you like me to listen, or help you find some support?” → Gives them choice and control.
• “Is there anything I can do to support you right now?” → Opens the door to practical help, while leaving space for them to decide what feels helpful.
What Not to Say
Some common responses, though well-intentioned, can make someone feel worse. Try to avoid:
• “Don’t feel that way.” → Suggests their feelings are wrong or that they have control over their feelings.
• “Other people have it worse.” → Minimizes their pain.
• “Just think positive.” → Oversimplifies a complex emotional struggle.
• “But you have so much going for you.” → Can make someone feel guilty for struggling, rather than supported
• Jumping into quick fixes. → Sometimes people just need space to be heard first.
How You Can Support
You don’t need to have all the answers. Simply listening, showing care, and staying present is meaningful. If you’re worried about someone’s safety, encourage them to connect with professional supports or crisis services. If they are in immediate danger, call emergency services.
In Canada, you can dial or text 988 for free, confidential suicide prevention support, available 24/7.
Checking In Matters
Hopelessness can feel deeply isolating. By reaching out, listening without judgment, and choosing your words thoughtfully, you can help someone feel seen and less alone.
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I support adults in Ontario who are navigating anxiety, stress, and the pressure of always keeping it together. If you often find yourself feeling overwhelmed inside—even when you appear calm on the outside—therapy can help you untangle those feelings, build coping tools, and reconnect with hope.
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